"i'd lost MY PLACE IN THE WORKPLACE"

I turned to MeUnlimited during what I thought was the biggest crisis in my life. By that time I was 38, my two children were at school and now I had time to stop and think about what I was going to do with the rest of my life.

 

I’d worked while my first child was young, but when the second one came along, this practically became really difficult. So I devoted 5 years of my life to full-time mothering.

 

Once they were both at school I suddenly had to face the fact that my space in the workplace had closed up and that it was down to me to find a way back in. I found myself crippled with self-doubt. I couldn’t imagine that anybody would want or need me. Each time I had to pick up the phone, I made up reasons as to why the person on the other end would not want to speak to me. I felt I had nothing to offer. I was too self conscious to admit to my peers from the advertising world I’d left, that I was feeling this way. Besides, I am not sure they would have believed that their previous go-getting colleague felt so incapable. I wasn’t sure what I needed.  Was it career coaching or therapy?


A friend recommended Me Unlimited’s  Brain Confident workshop and in that one day it became clear to me why this was happening and more importantly what I could do to turn things around.

 

I had failed to appreciate that huge hormonal and life changes would affect how I felt about myself, because these things affect our brains.  So, not only was I feeling bad, but I was giving myself a hard time for feeling this way, thinking a better woman would sail through my experiences.

 

Through MeUnlimited's workshop I learnt that our hormones, our emotions and our thoughts all affect our brain circuitry. What I really found interesting is our brain circuitry is not fixed - we can change it and by learning techniques that change the way we feel, moving from feeling frightened to feeling courageous , we are changing our brain circuitry.

 

The next day I was able to pick up the phone and start to make contact with my old networks. I noticed that even if people were not offering me work immediately, this did not make me give up. Instead I was able to find new resilience to call the next person. Within a month I was in a part-time job.

 

Obviously a job brings new challenges. As they happen I find myself using the strategies I learnt that day, how to run a performance movie and take up a champion’s posture. These enable me to go forwards where previously I would shrink back. My life feels back on track and I’m really grateful. I thoroughly recommend this day to any woman. 


“I found myself crippled with self-doubt. I felt I had nothing to offer.”


“Each time I had to pick up the phone, I made up reasons why the person on the other end wouldn't want to speak to me"


“Through MeUnlimited’s workshop I learnt that our hormones, our emotions and our thoughts all affect our brain circuitry....and it's not fixed - we can change it.”


“Within a month I was in a part-time job. My life feels back on track and I’m really grateful. I thoroughly recommend MeUnlimited to any woman.”


A MIDLIFE CRISIS?

Approaching 50 I’d worked in law and raised a family for the last 25 years. I’d always felt pretty confident and able to go for what I wanted. Yet recently I was questioning what I wanted, and who I was. I felt my identity was falling down a rabbit hole. Work challenges achieved and empty nest approaching I just had this restless craving for something else. I knew I wasn’t feeling satisfied, and this made me feel really guilty and ungrateful when I had so much going for me.


I didn’t really understand what was going on.  Yes I could feel my body changing with age but so was my mental state. My confidence was falling.  As someone who has always been able to analyse situations and problem solve, it was so hard to feel this way and not be able to think my way out of this one.


I can’t tell you what a difference MeUnlimited has made. Your course was packed with information and ideas and went way over the usual self development stuff. There was a real opportunity to process why this period of life was such a trigger point for me, with therapeutic tools that got right to the heart of things. Understanding how hormonal changes and different life stages all impact on our confidence through our brains was a real a-ha moment for me and enabled me to let go of my guilt.

 

You girls really know your stuff and speak with warmth and experience. I now give myself an instant confidence boost by using the techniques you taught me when I need to, and am currently working on a new business venture as a result. MeUnlimited held my hand and unleashed a new lease of life in me.


“I felt my identity was falling down a rabbit hole. Work challenges achieved and empty nest approaching I just had this restless craving for something else.”


"MeUnlimited held my hand and unleashed a new lease of life in me."


TO BE OR NOT TO BE SINGLE

From the outside, at 28 I was doing great, career on track, busy and surrounded by good friends. I’d recently ended the relationship I’d been in since uni and although hard, I knew it was for the best. Better to be single that in the wrong relationship.  Suddenly though, it seemed that everyone in my friendship group was getting married. Weekends had become about staying in with partners and a good box set. I could see the appeal: after many years of partying I too was getting tired of it. The difference was I was single. And my mind was constantly racing, worrying whether I should or could do something about it.


'Should I be going out tonight in order to meet the right guy or should I stay at home and get a good night’s sleep so I don’t feel ratty at work tomorrow? Should I be joining some kind of club to meet new single friends?' And I have to admit part of me worried that something was wrong with me because I hadn’t met the right person. Was I too focused on work? Did I come across to men as not feminine enough? Do they prefer women they can look after? I found myself questioning everything. If I managed to stop worrying about my future for a moment, I could be sure, my mum would remind me by asking why I wasn’t in a relationship with some nice guy and what about children!

 

Anxiety started to take over, advice seemed to be coming at me from all directions, making me more confused and not sure what I wanted.

 

I went to MeUnlimited basically asking: 'How strategic should I be with my life? Is life something to plan out or something you just live and experience?'


In one day I walked away with an understanding that hormones, life experiences and peer pressure can knock our confidence and make us lose the ground we are standing on doubting every single step. More importantly I learned how to stay calm in order to find me again, and regained a confidence to turn off the worry and celebrate what I have in my life right at this moment. Now, I have let go of that wasted energy worrying, I am able to make decisions based on what I feel and want again. I have got my mojo back and it feels fantastic.


“My mind was constantly racing, worrying whether I should or could do something about it.....being single"


"Anxiety started to take over… advice coming at me from all directions making me more confused.”


“I’ve learnt ways to stay calm, regain my confidence and turn off the worry. I’ve got my mojo back and it feels fantastic.”


NERVOUS AT WORK

I signed up to the workshop as I'd been feeling unable to manage stress or life in general very well since I turned 30. I wanted to increase my confidence as I get terribly nervous and out of control if I have to speak in public, or give presentations. I wanted to understand where it all comes from.

 

The one day workshop gave me so many useful insights not only into myself but also how the mind works in general with the help of the scientific approach guided by the very friendly and professional Deborah and Sanja.

 

I found the energy grid particularly useful to analyse myself and others more objectively. Also the breathing exercises gave me an opportunity to face my past and present in a conscious manner, enabling me to position myself in the right place.

 

It was the first time I had attended this kind of workshop, and found it very enjoyable and useful in understanding myself better. I also like the relaxed female only environment.

 

Last but by no means least, many thanks to Deborah and Sanja for being such charming and thoughtful tutors throughout the day.


“I wanted to increase my confidence as I get terribly nervous and out of control if I have to speak in public, or give presentations. I wanted to understand where it all comes from."


“It was the first time I had attended this kind of workshop, and found it very enjoyable and useful in understanding myself better. I also like the relaxed female only environment.”